ROLE OF NLP (NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING) IN MANAGING CHILDREN BEHAVIOUR

NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming and is regarded as a modern self-help strategy that involves manipulating one’s brain to achieve desired behavioural modifications. Neuro involves all of our experiences that are either conscious or subconscious regulated by the complex network of our brain and aided by the five senses. Linguistics is the use of language and how does it affect our lives as we use language, verbal or non-verbal to communicate. It also provides meaning to our experiences. Programming is how we control our actions to achieve desired goals. Sequences or patterns of experiences compose our interactions. NLP is a unique model showing how people learn, motivate themselves and change their behaviour to attain excellence in the desired field. It is an amalgamation of various disciplines including neurology, psychology and linguistics etc.

The main aim of NLP in childhood psychology is to help the child develop an understanding of the world around him and also realise the importance of viewing the world effectively. This ultimately affects his views about the world. Thus, he can modify his behaviour to learn from his past experiences and utilise those experiences for his own benefit.

It is confined not only to behavioural modifications but also includes ways of thinking, communication, emotions, feelings and social interactions. It is more advanced than the traditional methods used in psychology. It helps in teaching skills to generate a positive behavioural change.

NLP finds its application in problem-solving as the patterns of behaviour acquired enable your child to mould his previous unwanted pattern of behaviour in problematic situations and solve the issues more efficiently in the future. The ”Swish Pattern” is taught that enables children to act in a desired manner in   a given situation. Usually, during a problem, there’s always an exaggerated negative response. This technique enables you to recognize that response and its triggers. It is then replaced with a positive image that further helps your child to develop positive behaviour in future to this problem.

New patterns of behaviour are acquired by playing at the level of plasticity of the brain. It is found to be highest in children. They have a greater tendency to bring about changes in behaviour. Internal imagery associated with a particular behaviour is of great significance that needs to be figured out before developing a new image and response. It includes the repetition of a process to replace the negative image with a new positive one. It should be well suited to a child’s overall being. The implication of this positive image is checked by challenging him and assessing his reaction in future.

Every behaviour holds a positive intention. This is the most important assumption considered in NLP. Negative behaviour somehow has a positive intention that needs to be detected. A procrastinating child might be holding pride in his ability to accomplish his task at the end of the day relatively faster than his fellows. Once we can detect this positive intention, we can deviate it and utilise it to achieve or strengthen his positive behaviour. When we try to get rid of a certain behaviour without addressing its intention, the change is often shortlived and ineffective.

NLP is also used to boost up the confidence of your child. Children who are constantly exposed to negative feedbacks and scolded for their failures have lower self-esteem and confidence. NLP nullifies all concepts of failure. It emphasizes only on feedback and provides ways to bring forth the hidden abilities of such children, thus enabling them to convert these letdowns to take-ups in their lives.

90% of our everyday communication is non-verbal in nature. Here the role of linguistics in NLP is identified. A child is constantly communicating with every person he comes across in his life. Be assured that this communication is a part of the message you’re imparting on his mind. NLP emphasises on making this message meaningful. Do not try to avoid or ignore children for your own convenience. Trying to be a positive role model for your child also counts in NLP. Make them feel accepted and appreciated while they are trying to interact with their surrounding environment and individuals.

‘’Anchoring’’ is a part of NLP that allows us to associate good feelings with the previously experienced disturbing and threatening situations. These are basically applied to overcome states of fear, phobias, panic attacks and anxiety in children.

Pattern interruption in NLP is used to help children get rid of harmful and undesirable repetitive behaviours. NLP is also found helpful in improving class performance, enhancing readiness for school in difficult children, getting rid of undesired routines for children, developing social interactions and effective communication skills and also in helping raise self-esteem in shy and dull children. NLP is thus a useful and revolutionary method in childhood psychology that incorporates neurological as well as linguistic aspects to carry out positive behavioural modifications.

HOW TO SET CHILDREN’S ROUTINE DURING LOCKDOWN

Ever since this pandemic has hit the world, no area of Human life remains unaffected by its emerging challenges. There is an obvious alteration in the day-to-day life of the global population observed in a fairly short time following this blizzard of panic and uncertainty. Everything that is a deviation from normal brings about disequilibrium, confusion and disorganization. This pandemic and some serious social restrictions during a lockdown resulted in families worldwide struggling with their everyday routine and rhythm.

There is thus a need to create a schedule and stick to a pre-determined routine. This helps to gain the sense of liveliness, order and normality in these trying times. Lockdown can be distressing as there is this fear of not being able to live a normal life again. Imagine how colourless and dull our lives become with this overwhelming fear of being caged like a bird for an indefinite period of time.

Parents these days find themselves looking for practical and innovative ways to deal with this situation. A simple and applicable routine that is easy to follow and brings about the sense of revival and optimism in your child is what you need to consider.

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy is a famous proverb. It highlights the importance of introducing healthy and playful activities in a child’s routine with his regular studies and learning hours, optimized as per his needs and preferences. This word ‘routine’ might only bring the image of an all-time studying child immersed in his books all the time. Learn to manage studies and healthy activities in an efficient manner that retains the essence of daily life.

If you are struggling to find enough to fill your child’s day, make a list comprising everything you want to include in this daily life starting from as soon as he wakes up and including all the activities till his bedtime. Time his sleep and wake routine and never let your child spoil his daily clock as the regulation of circadian rhythm is important for his overall health and well being. Not attending school should in no way mean waking up late and missing out on all the opportunities that a well planned day with all its activities holds for him.

Consider this time as an opportunity to focus more on your child’s health. Try to introduce healthy eating habits. Find it as a golden window of opportunity to keep a check on the caloric requirement and composition of his diet. There should be a definite time for every meal. Try to improve the quality of the ingredients to ensure good health and strong immunity for your child.

All the parents out there must be struggling with new routines and trying not to lose their minds in this time of stress. Be assured that you are not alone and will survive this storm with a little planning and wise scheduling. Children minds have already been trained to follow a routine throughout their school time. Make use of this fact and determine studying hours during those times of the day. Do not forget to include short breaks and creative activities in between the long study hours. Younger children require more breaks while older kids can work independently in longer stretches per subject based on their capacity. The key is not to let them lose their attention. Consider Online classes if you feel a need to enrol them in these classes and short courses of their choice.

Have realistic expectations while homeschooling your kids. This might be the first time for both of you. Give everything a fair amount of time to find the right track. Try building a strong and supportive relationship with your child. After all, in the end, you are going to make some great memories together to last even after this temporary lockdown is over.

Indulge your child in some healthy activities throughout the day. Staying at home and enjoying your leisure time should not mean some extra hours of screen time. There is a fairly great number of other productive activities that you can arrange with minimal or even no effort at all. The health of your kid requires him to stay active while staying at home.

Engage children in household chores as well. On normal days you help your child while getting up, organising stuff, getting ready, eating, combing, etc. This is high time to help them be independent in these activities. Consider this as the perfect opportunity for them to learn these skills by themselves. Reward them on finishing work or chores efficiently. Build a sense of competition among your children so that they engage themselves in household work and enjoy helping you as well.

Identify the activities that your child enjoys regularly. Help him acquire a skill while keeping a balance between study and activity time. Indoor activities may include a walk or jog in the home lawn, watering plants, playing with toys, board games, music, playing instruments and helping in household chores.

Dedicated family time should be a part of your daily routine. Let them talk to their peers and teachers when they miss them. Do not forget to include your child’s opinion and preferences in this routine. Remind one another that this situation is temporary and your determination to get out of this after acquiring strength, resilience, good memories and a sound experience will help you get smoothly through this journey. Consider it as an ideal time to achieve what you were not able to during normal days and an opportunity to set a routine that will help your child in the longer run.

How to Develop Cognitive Skills in Your Child

Cognitive skills are the brain-based abilities acquired from a set of practical experiences of versatility. These skills are helpful in the execution of tasks varying from simple to relatively complex ones. Cognition is all about our understanding of the world and conducting oneself well accordingly.

Cognitive skills are a set of mental capabilities the involve the complex processes of learning, problem-solving, attention, remembrance, communication, perception, insight and acquired learning and social skills. Cognition is not just a process of acquiring new information; it involves an interplay of various specialized areas of brain supported by complex and intricate neuronal networks.

Cognitive development is a key part of complex brain development. It is important to lay down a sound foundation of an efficient cognitive development in the early years of the brain development of your child as these years are specifically crucial for language, motor, communication and cognitive development.

Acquisition of deep-rooted cognitive skills is not a simple process accomplished merely in a day or two. It is a composite long term process involving a fairly great number of factors, starting as soon as a child is born and requiring day to day active engagement in learning and interacting spheres of his life.

It is emphasized to spend some quality time with your child. It not only engages him in healthy activities but also conveys a strong message that he is important to you and other family members. This ultimately helps him recognize his self worth and becoming a confident person who knows how to fit in and survive in the world.

Encourage your child to ask questions no matter how trivial or silly they may sound. This opens up new doors of knowledge and learning and helps in sharpening up his acquired cognitive skills. Give him every opportunity to gain meaning and knowledge from his experiences and acquired pieces of information to incorporate them into the freshly learnt details and facts.

One of the best things to do is to relate the cognitive development of your child with the age-related milestones. Preschoolers learn the best by playing. It is important to ensure that when your child is playing, he is in a constant process of learning, problem-solving and brainstorming all that time. This is undoubtedly the best way to make efficient use of the developmental milestones in the acquisition of new and invaluable cognitive skills which will last for a lifetime.

Your four or five years old has a relatively shorter concentration span and tends to get bored easily. As he is restless by nature, it is crucial to engage him in interesting activities and make him predict the possible outcomes all by himself. It is possible by asking him engaging and engrossing questions so that he doesn’t get bored easily. Put forward some compulsive challenges and build a strong sense of competition in these years of life.

Introduce simple board games for your child. Indulge him in reading activities and bring him interesting and knowledgable books. Jigsaw puzzles and memory games are also proved to be salubrious for mental health and cognitive development. Researches have shown that children learn a lot from the auditory and visual experiences.

Make him memorize and act on kids rhymes and jingles with appropriate gestures in a way to maximize his opportunity to retain the knowledge acquired.

Outdoor games sound like a perfect idea as they help in exploring new and useful information. Your child learns how to develop social interactions. He gets a chance to learn new information, incorporate into previously acquired facts, process these facts and then speak about it. Help him in the progressive strengthening of previously acquired cognitive skills.

Parents should teach their children the established relationship between cause and effect. If your child gets able to anticipate the consequences of his actions, he can easily learn to be a responsible person with proficient and reasonable decision-making abilities.

One of the key steps in the cognitive development of your child is the provision of all the opportunities that enable him to stay focused on an assigned task, overcome the distractions in the surrounding and to effectively store  the acquired knowledge in his working memory.

Teach your kids various shapes and colours that are part of our everyday life. Encourage them to take part in daily chores and do not forget to reward them for their achievements. One of the effective ways to sharpen the imaginative capability of your child is to play pretend and acquire experience with social interactions. All of these activities help sharpen their abilities of reasoning, problem-solving, comprehension and give effective learning experiences. These acquired cognitive skills will ultimately help your child not only in his classroom but outside the class as well.

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Trigger Creativity and Imagination In Your Child

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Creativity is an extensive and inherent tendency to amalgamate old bits and pieces to a comparatively novel and rewarding visualization. It’s a common misconception that only a certain group of people are privileged enough to enjoy this flair of creativity and imagination.

It is important to keep in mind  that creativity is not a passive process in any way. One cannot simply sit back and wait for this cool and salubrious breeze of inventions and expressiveness to knock at our door of destined opportunities. It’s much like a muscle in its tendency to be evolved and matured with one’s own efforts.

Needless to say that a child’s mind is like a blank canvass. They are born with this inherent ability to soak everything like a sponge. Although the process of brain development keeps on evolving over lifetime, but the first eight years of our life  can help in building a strong foundation for future insight, wisdom, endeavors and a series of lifetime achievements.

This process involving a complex interplay of various regions of the brain, helps in awakening conscious awareness and efficient problem solving skills. It provides a cast for the malleable minds of your children.

When it comes to building your child’s creative skills, he should be willing to take risks in order or take things out of their purpose and put them to his unconventional use. It’s not always necessary to win but to at least try and take a risk.

Teach your child to be flexible in his approach to activate and deactivate certain areas and complex networks of his brain. Only then he’ll be able to turn adversity into advantage. Research shows that the experiences of deprivation, depletion and erosions prove to be active stimulants of self development, creativity and deep personal transformation.

Imaginative people all over the world are united by their recklessness and reluctance to embrace the conventional approach towards completion of their tasks. Teach him how to be a mindful observer. He can begin this journey by observing the world around him. It’s your task to ensure a healthy environment for him to learn and perceive what’s happening around. Gradually, help him expand his observations and teach him to appreciate even the minor details of his surroundings. If you feel that your existing environment is no longer serving this purpose, try changing it for him. A simple stroll in the woods sometimes serve this purpose. You can thus convert it into an opportunity for your child to exercise a mindful observation.

Imagination relies on curiosity. It’s a fuel for your child’s cognitive and imaginative development. Never let him stop questioning. Encourage your child to spark up his creativity by asking questions and make sure to answer some of his apparently ‘’silly’’ questions vigilantly.

Let his curiosity drive his imagination. Find out ways to sharpen his skills. Challenge him to create something out of everything he likes. Don’t ever set boundaries for him. It’s sometimes okay to think beyond boundaries and thresholds.

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He should be allowed to daydream as well. When you allow your mind to float freely, it brings out the best chunks of the reminiscences, recollections, impressions and associated sentiments. Teach him how to reshape those thoughts into attaining a purpose.

He should be taught to set his priorities in life. Reflect on what inspires him to be a better person. Try identifying his interests right from the beginning and provide him with all the opportunities to draw a portfolio out of the things that challenge his inner skills and creative side.

Help him develop a keen creative passion and courage that’ll serve as an emotional fuel in paving his path towards fulfilling his dreams. Don’t expect him to live a life exactly the way you’ve planned for him. Try not to impose your own wishes and interests. He should be given enough opportunity and space to explore his interests and likings.

By asking him imaginative and creative questions, you’ll provide him with an opportunity to broaden his approach and express his ideas in an efficient way. Encourage him to think out of the box. A child possessing the art of divergent thinking is capable of having a good insight at problem solving in his later life. It’s always the early childhood that’ll provide him with the maximum opportunity to polish his developing skills. Encourage creative writing, outdoor activities, verbal tasks and art activities to further explore his fields of interest.

 Imaginative plays help children in self expression. Since the technology is taking over the world, it’s your duty to limit your child’s screen time and provide him an opportunity to learn and make things out of the virtual world. He’ll ultimately be equipped with the required experience once he jumps into the practical world.

It should however be kept in mind that the process of imaginary development takes considerable time and effort. Once you successfully manage to improve his imagination, you’ll be paving a path of self-realization, improvement, the art of problem-solving, and efficient and profound creative thinking.

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Differences between public and grammar schools

Grammar Schools

Introduction and brief review

Grammar schools are government-funded secondary schools in the state that select pupils based on academic ability at the age of 11, so they are referred to as ‘’11 plus’’. There are about 163 grammar schools in England, out of some 3,000 state secondaries, and a further 69 grammar schools in Northern Ireland.

Concept of grammar schools dated back to 16th centaury but modern grammar school concept emerged through Education act of 1944, after this act secondary education was free after the age of 14. In 1965, as per Government order grammar schools were phase out and replaced with a new system of comprehensive schools which admit pupils of all abilities. Most grammar schools were phase out, some became comprehensive and some converted into private schools but many were allowed to maintain their status and still exist today. Grammar schools are still available in some but not in all parts of England. Kent, Lincolnshire, Essex and Buckinghamshire are well known for supporting grammar school system.

In 1998 Tony Blair government banned the creation of new grammar schools. There have been no new grammar schools for more than 50 years and existing ones are allowed to expand.

PROS of grammar schools

High Achievers: Most of the high achiever across the country has been the product of a grammar school education system

Excellent academic results: Due to academic based selection pupils of grammar schools get great academic results. According to National Grammar Schools association, in 2006; 164 grammar schools of England produced more than half of the total A grades in A levels as compared to 2000 comprehensive schools. Healthy Academic environment: Due to healthy academic environment children are less likely to be bullied for hard work at school

CONS of grammar schools

Disputability of 11 plus exam: Many people disagree with the selection principle at the age of 11 as many children are not ready at this age and are still developing cognitive skills and failure in some children have long term psychological effects.

Classism: It is claimed due to tutoring fee wealthier children have a better chance to get into grammar schools and causing classism and division in society

Public Schools

Introduction and a brief review

Public Schools are also called independent schools in the United Kingdom, one of a relatively small group of institutions providing education to secondary level students for a fee and independent of the state system with respect to endowment and administration. The term “public” should not be misunderstood that these are public sector schools; they are in fact private sector. The term public used to indicate that access to these intuitions was not restricted on the basis of religion, residence, or occupation and was subject to public management in contrast to private schools which were run for the personal profit of proprietors.

From the 16th century onward boys boarding schools were established for public use. Initially, most public schools were all for boys and require full boarding. However, now public schools allow all-day pupils and have become partially or fully coeducational. Up to World War II, the role of public schools was to prepare pupils for the gentlemanly elite. After the Clarendon Commission reported in 1864, the Public Schools Act 1868 gave the following seven schools independence from direct jurisdiction or responsibility of the Crown, the established church, or the government: Charterhouse, Eton College, Harrow School, Rugby School, Shrewsbury School, Westminster School, and Winchester College. Henceforth each of these schools was to be managed by a board of governors.

The majority of public schools were established by a Christian denomination, principally the Church of England or in some cases the Roman Catholic and Methodist churches.

PROS of Public Schools

Academic diversity: Greater range of qualifications available in public schools provides better chances for pupils to demonstrate their potential to the full level.

The satisfactory student to teacher ratio: Small teaching group is a significant factor in academic success. In most, public schools smaller class sizes are a distinctive factor with the average being 11 pupils per teacher as compared with 17 pupils per teacher in state schools.

Academically diverse candidates: Public schools have continued to dominate entry to the leading universities and provide a fair share of the candidates in shortage subjects, such as languages and physics.

CONS of public schools

High expenditures: Schools’ higher fees are a much bigger burden on the family after years of inflation.

Scarcity of Funds: As most public schools are run by private organizations so there is no major financial support from the government and despite vast applications sometimes there is a scarcity of funds for different advanced projects.