NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming and is regarded as a modern self-help strategy that involves manipulating one’s brain to achieve desired behavioural modifications. Neuro involves all of our experiences that are either conscious or subconscious regulated by the complex network of our brain and aided by the five senses. Linguistics is the use of language and how does it affect our lives as we use language, verbal or non-verbal to communicate. It also provides meaning to our experiences. Programming is how we control our actions to achieve desired goals. Sequences or patterns of experiences compose our interactions. NLP is a unique model showing how people learn, motivate themselves and change their behaviour to attain excellence in the desired field. It is an amalgamation of various disciplines including neurology, psychology and linguistics etc.
The main aim of NLP in childhood psychology is to help the child develop an understanding of the world around him and also realise the importance of viewing the world effectively. This ultimately affects his views about the world. Thus, he can modify his behaviour to learn from his past experiences and utilise those experiences for his own benefit.
It is confined not only to behavioural modifications but also includes ways of thinking, communication, emotions, feelings and social interactions. It is more advanced than the traditional methods used in psychology. It helps in teaching skills to generate a positive behavioural change.
NLP finds its application in problem-solving as the patterns of behaviour acquired enable your child to mould his previous unwanted pattern of behaviour in problematic situations and solve the issues more efficiently in the future. The ”Swish Pattern” is taught that enables children to act in a desired manner in a given situation. Usually, during a problem, there’s always an exaggerated negative response. This technique enables you to recognize that response and its triggers. It is then replaced with a positive image that further helps your child to develop positive behaviour in future to this problem.
New patterns of behaviour are acquired by playing at the level of plasticity of the brain. It is found to be highest in children. They have a greater tendency to bring about changes in behaviour. Internal imagery associated with a particular behaviour is of great significance that needs to be figured out before developing a new image and response. It includes the repetition of a process to replace the negative image with a new positive one. It should be well suited to a child’s overall being. The implication of this positive image is checked by challenging him and assessing his reaction in future.
Every behaviour holds a positive intention. This is the most important assumption considered in NLP. Negative behaviour somehow has a positive intention that needs to be detected. A procrastinating child might be holding pride in his ability to accomplish his task at the end of the day relatively faster than his fellows. Once we can detect this positive intention, we can deviate it and utilise it to achieve or strengthen his positive behaviour. When we try to get rid of a certain behaviour without addressing its intention, the change is often shortlived and ineffective.
NLP is also used to boost up the confidence of your child. Children who are constantly exposed to negative feedbacks and scolded for their failures have lower self-esteem and confidence. NLP nullifies all concepts of failure. It emphasizes only on feedback and provides ways to bring forth the hidden abilities of such children, thus enabling them to convert these letdowns to take-ups in their lives.
90% of our everyday communication is non-verbal in nature. Here the role of linguistics in NLP is identified. A child is constantly communicating with every person he comes across in his life. Be assured that this communication is a part of the message you’re imparting on his mind. NLP emphasises on making this message meaningful. Do not try to avoid or ignore children for your own convenience. Trying to be a positive role model for your child also counts in NLP. Make them feel accepted and appreciated while they are trying to interact with their surrounding environment and individuals.
‘’Anchoring’’ is a part of NLP that allows us to associate good feelings with the previously experienced disturbing and threatening situations. These are basically applied to overcome states of fear, phobias, panic attacks and anxiety in children.
Pattern interruption in NLP is used to help children get rid of harmful and undesirable repetitive behaviours. NLP is also found helpful in improving class performance, enhancing readiness for school in difficult children, getting rid of undesired routines for children, developing social interactions and effective communication skills and also in helping raise self-esteem in shy and dull children. NLP is thus a useful and revolutionary method in childhood psychology that incorporates neurological as well as linguistic aspects to carry out positive behavioural modifications.